How to Be Single and Happy

3 steps to beat heartbreak and get back in touch with happiness

You see them everywhere: at the park, at your favorite restaurant, even the movies -- happy couples spending time together. Just staring at them can make a single person physically ill. Maybe you've just recently ended a relationship, or maybe it’s been years since you've had a “better half” — either way, the single blues can really get you down. But wait — the clouds are parting and there is light at the end of this solo tunnel — you can be happy by yourself! Relationship coach and author Ruth Purple has been helping couples and single people alike for many years make the most of their current situation. So here is Purple on how to be single and happy.

Step 1: Renew your space and renew yourself

Whether singleness is thrust upon you suddenly or it’s an old hat, start by renewing the space around you. Get rid of the junk that reminds you of past relationships. Old pictures, clothes of your previous significant other, even music on your iPod that makes you emotional — get rid of it all. Purging yourself of all these reminders that you are single can help you start fresh. If you feel you aren’t quite ready to send everything to the dump, box it up and stick that box in the very back of a closet so you don’t see it every day. Then, go buy something new, something that you love that represents this new stage of life.

Step 2: Reconnect with friends and be social

A lot of times in romantic relationships, we tend to lose sight of all the other friendships in our lives. To be happier as a single person, take this time to reconnect with old friends and family. Fill Friday evening playing games with friends and Sunday afternoons with coffee with your mom, even if it’s over the phone. By filling your free time with human interaction, you leave less time to feel lonely, and you’ll realize that you do have people who care about you in your life.

Step 3: Revisit your old hobbies or pick up a new one

Another common mistake people tend to make when they get romantically involved is they stop participating in their hobbies. Now is the time to pick up those running shoes or arts and crafts projects you left behind. If you don’t have a hobby, try something you've never done before. Joining a club or a class is a great way to meet new friends who have similar interests as you. Learning a new skill or setting a new goal can provide the mental focus you need to stop thinking about being alone, and is an important part of how to be single and happy.

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