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| posted Mar 14, 2007 5:06:59 PM | To All |
"You've got to put on the power" is among Tae Bo creator Billy Blanks' favorite motivational phrases. When we talked with Billy recently, he said he thinks many people "don't know how to get power in their lives."
A few things that give me a shot of power:
Working out. Martial arts, Tae Bo, racquetball, strength training ... When I'm active, I feel indestructible and able to take on anything.
Singing with the stereo cranked. I accept that VH1 will never do a Behind the Music episode on me. But in my car, I am a rock star.
Speaking up. It is scary to voice your opinion, but disempowering to watch someone else say what you were thinking because you were too afraid to say it.
Letting go of control. It's amazing how freeing it can be to accept what is. Being pregnant was one of my first real lessons in this. These days I am kinder to myself and more able to accept changes I can't control. This can be a really unexpected kind of power.
Wearing stiletto boots. A girl needs her power shoes.
What about you rock stars out there?
Do you have power?
How do you "put on" your power?
What's your advice for someone who's feeling powerless?
Know someone who's a chronic victim or just doesn't believe in herself/himself?
What do you want to say to that person? (Or, are you that person?)
How did you build up someone else's power recently?Edited by: BlueSky on Mar 14, 2007 5:11:50 PM |
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| posted Apr 26, 2007 10:12:32 AM | To All |
I completely agree with you - especially on the stiletto heels. I wear a pair of black leather five inch heels whenever I'm going into a meeting where I need my confidence.
Here's a few more:
Start the day with a workout - I thought I'd never be able to do it, but I get up an hour earlier every day and make an effort to do either combined yoga and pilates or pilates alone to get me started. I feel so centred, relaxed and worked out afterwards I know I'm going to have a good day.
A visualisation playlist - I walk to work every day with a playlist full of music that makes me feel powerful and on top of the world. Favourites on there include "Right Here Right Now" by Fatboy Slim and "Flawless" by The Ones.
Laugh - If I've had a tough morning, I take lunch with somebody else so I can have a good laugh with them over our day. If I can't manage that, then I'll look up cartoons online to make sure I've relaxed myself again.
Breathe - I do breathing exercises, drop my shoulders and puff out my chest. Never fails!
I get asked for advice a lot by people, and possibly the most empowering thing you can do is give somebody the confidence to find their own answers - even if I guide them there, they know what's best for themselves. The best way to make somebody feel good? Say "Thank you!" - and it really doesn't matter how trivial a thing it is, as long as you show gratitude.
Joely |
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| posted Apr 27, 2007 9:50:05 AM | To All |
Being active definitely! I really get into my own power when I'm hiking, snowshoeing or dancing. I think especially for women being physical helps us access our strength.
Taking "risks" helps! For some people that means speaking up in a meeting or to a partner, going to a movie or dinner alone (and without a book!) or a new workout class. For others it might be skydiving or a hike in Peru!
Feel good file. I keep a folder on my computer and in my desk that has "feel goods." Notes people have written me with compliments or great advice, etc. When I feel powerless or down, I can always go to my file!
With friends and family. I can't help but have advice and ideas when someone comes to me. Honestly sometimes if you simply listen fully and attentively and don't make comments except to affirm you're listening... Just don't get caught up in the drama but be compassionate. People amazingly often do come to the "answers" themselves. You may follow up a few days later with a hey, I just heard about this great class, a related article or something and share that with them.
My friends and I also freely ask for pep talks if we need them.
Fear factor. Really explore how what role fear and worry play in your feeling of powerlessness. I try and trace back what triggered the current feelings. I also watch the caffeine intact because it can make me anxious.
I also swear by the power of the boots. I don't think they need to be stilettos necessarily because some of the places I've worked -- stilettos would have been too much! I rely on my cowboy boots and now my Frye Harness boots for my power "suit."
It also helps to think of Nancy Sinatra singing These Boots are Made for Walking! |
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