I didn’t meet and marry my soulmate until I was 44. It was in my early forties that I decided to find my soulmate using everything I had ever learned about manifestation, psychology, spirituality and the Law of Attraction. My intentions became crystal clear while I simultaneously cleared out the clutter in my house AND in my heart. I learned and invented techniques, rituals, visualizations and prayers that helped me prepare my body, mind, spirit and home for an amazing relationship.
They worked. I met my husband, Brian, who has exceeded all of my desires and expectations. He was and is everything I ever wished for. Here’s what I know for sure: finding true love is possible for anyone at any age.
Is it your dream to find a life-partner who will love, cherish and adore you? To manifest your soulmate, try these 10 tips for navigating the world of love and romance:
1. Create personalized rituals.
Prior to meeting Brian 10 years ago, I had a daily ritual in which I would light several candles at sunset, put on my favorite CD of Gregorian chants and sit in my big, cozy chair
. With my eyes closed, I would drop into the feeling of remembering the joy of having my soulmate in my life. I would experience these wonderful feelings in every part of my body KNOWING that he was on the way. There were days when the thought that he was very late
did cross my mind, but I would just let those thoughts go and get back into a state of grace … feeling and knowing that his arrival was assured.
2. Believe your soulmate is out there.
The basic Law of Attraction states that you will attract to you those things that match your state of belief.
Believing that your soulmate is out there is critical to the preparation of manifestation. If you learn to believe that “the one” is not only out there but is also looking for you, then true love can be yours.
3. Be the loving person that you are.
Find ways to express more love to everyone in your life
. The Universe is always mirroring back to us our beliefs about our selves and the world. If we believe the world is a loving and friendly place, then most of the time that will be our experience. But, if we believe the world is a chaotic, stressful and fearful place, then that becomes our reality.
4. Live soulmate truth every day.
Live in the knowingness that you are in a loving, committed relationship. This wonderful Universe of ours is set up to deliver the people and things we draw to us that are consistent with our personal belief system. If you don’t believe you will ever find the one, then, guess what — you probably won’t. So, believing and knowing that your soulmate is out there is the most important part of the formula. Big love is possible for anyone of any age if you are willing to become a magnet for love. Continue to live each day in the knowingness that you already are in a loving, committed relationship as you savor the waiting for your beloved to arrive.
5. Map out your desires.
Write a list of the most important qualities your soulmate will possess. Take your list and create a “vision map” — a collage that becomes a visual representation of your romantic future. It really works! We know of one forty-something single man who quickly manifested his soulmate this way: After he created his vision map, he took a photograph of it and made it the wallpaper on his laptop and his cell phone. Dozens of times each day he focused on his “vision” and voilá, within a few months he met the love of his life.
6. Heal your heart of any past hurts that will prevent you from magnetizing big love.
You may not realize it but resenting someone or being unwilling to forgive them actually binds you to them. Make a list of the ex-lovers with whom you are still harboring grudges or resentment. Write each a detailed letter expressing your upset. Give yourself permission to go full out, as you will never mail these letters. Then, write a second letter — this time from your ex-love’s point of view. Then read all the letters out loud to yourself with the intention of allowing any remaining animosity to dissipate. When we heal the scars of our pasts we open the door to a more fulfilling future.
7. Clear out the clutter in your home and create space for your beloved (especially in your closets).
Eliminating physical clutter from your life is one of the fastest ways to increase the inflow of new positive energy. At the same time, you also want to create physical space for your soon-to-arrive beloved. Make sure to clear some space in your closet and keep the nightstand on your soulmate’s side of the bed empty so that when they arrive they can fill it with their own personal items. Remember the old saying “nature abhors a vacuum”? Well, it applies here. Create space so the Universe can deliver your soulmate into a home that welcomes him or her. Even if you never plan to have your soulmate live with you in your space, it is essential to do this.
8. Create an altar in the relationship corner of your home.
According to Feng Shui experts, the far right corner of your bedroom is considered the relationship area. To enliven this space, create a sacred altar. Items can include fresh flowers, a pair of pink or red candles, a pair of small swans of other animals that mate for life, romantic photographs, and icons or statues that represent to you the image of love and family. You may also want to hang your “vision map” above your altar. Find time each day to spend a few minutes sitting in front of your altar saying a prayer of gratitude for your beloved’s swift arrival.
9. Listen to your intuition to take action when opportunities present themselves.
It’s important to be on the lookout for synchronistic signs from the Universe or inspiring invitations that come out of the blue that may lead you to your soulmate. Taking action may also mean joining an online dating service, enrolling in a scuba diving course or simply sharing with trusted friends your desire to meet the love of your life.
10. Fall in love with yourself. Know that you are loveable.
Find ways each day to nourish yourself with love, appreciation, healthy food, positive thoughts and tenderness. Begin to care for yourself as if you are the most important person in the world. You deserve your own love and affection. When you fall in love with yourself the whole world mirrors that love back to you. Oscar Wilde said it best: “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”
Remember: Love is there for you. It’s always been there for you. You just need to remember the love that you are and once you do, the Universe will deliver to you the perfect soulmate.