A Peaceful Divorce

Splitting up does not have to be contentious, says Heather Frenner in her book Peaceful Separation, Peaceful Divorce

The bad state of the economy might be a good thing for marriages. According to the American Academy for Matrimonial Lawyers, a lot of couples can’t afford to divorce, so they’re sticking it out. Couples who work through hard times with respect have a better chance of staying together in the end. And even if a couple decides to split, it doesn’t have to be contentious, says Heather Frenner in her book Peaceful Separation, Peaceful Divorce.

Asking readers to work through the book slowly—one chapter a day—Frenner, a yoga teacher, helps men and women escape from the “nightmare” and “drama” that so frequently accompanies divorce. She carries readers through exercises, such as releasing emotions through the body, practicing restorative yoga poses that have medical benefits, and offering words of wisdom from poets, musicians, a divine teachers (e.g., Rumi, The Beatles, Jesus). While Frenner shares a little bit of her personal story in the book, most of the pages are devoted to a roadmap of healing.

If finding comfort in others’ stories sounds of interest, look to Ask Me About My Divorce, a collection of personal essays about moving on after the end of a marriage. This might be one of those books that you want to read after some time has passed (I haven’t gone through a divorce, but I do remember when I had my miscarriage—after some of the rawness and pain wore off—I found comfort in About What Was Lost, a collection of pieces on pregnancy loss). The true stories in Ask Me About My Divorce are inspiring and empowering, again showing that while break-ups may be painful, they can lead to rebuilding and renewal.

Peaceful Separation, Peaceful Divorce by Heather Frenner (AuthorHouse, $19)

Ask Me About My Divorce edited by Candace Walsh (Seal Press, $15.95)

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