5 Things to Ask on a First Date

Questions to determine if a second date is in the cards

First dates can be one of the most stressful events of our lives. There is so much pressure put on one evening. You may spend so much of your energy on trying to be impressive and attractive that you barely have enough energy to really get to know the other person. There's plenty of dating advice to be had, of course, but to get you started, here is a list of questions ranging from ice-breakers to deal-breakers to help take some of the strain of first date conversation off your shoulders.

If you could have any superhero power what would it be?

This is a fun question because you can modify it anyway you want. You can tell them they can only pick one power, such as the ability to fly, or you can let them choose a superhero, like Superman. A fun followup is, of course, asking them to tell you why they chose it, but another is to ask them who would they tell about their super power. The answers to all of these questions may give you just a little insight to what motivates them, and who is important in their world.

Would you prefer reading a great book or watching a great movie?

If he responds with reading a great book, then discus the last good book you read. If you aren’t much of a reader, you can say that and ask him to suggest books he likes. People like helping other people enjoy something they enjoy.

If they respond with watching a great movie, you can ask them to list the five best movies ever made. Then, respond with your own list. Either way they respond, you have the opportunity to learn more about her personality and activities she enjoys.

If you could have any job in the whole world, what would it be and why?

Asking this can really tell you a lot about who she is and the current state of her life. Is she happy in the job she has ? Is she in the position to someday reach her dream job? Does she even have goals? Is she ambitious, focused, lost or confused? Is she driven by money, power or passion? The answers to these questions can be invaluable when deciding whether or not you'd like to have a second date with this person.

What is your biggest pet peeve?

This is a more personal question to be used later in the date when you are warmed up and feeling comfortable with one another. A lot of times, you will find that people get really fired up and passionate when describing the little things in life that get under their skin. Plus, If his pet peeve is your pet peeve, it’s an instant connection. You may discover, on the other hand, that pet peeves are so unique to an individual that it's possible you could have already engaged in his pet peeve on the date! In either case, it's better to know than not.

How would you define a truly successful relationship?

It's important to pay attention to her answer on this one. Does she answer with ideas and words that match your own ideas? Is she being realistic with her expectations of her  partner? Most importantly, though, would you want to be a part of a relationship that looked like the one she was describing, or are your needs somewhat different ?

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